1-1 Sessions

Hello my friend, if you’re like me, you know exactly what it’s like to walk through this world as a man feeling blindfolded without any true, or very limited examples (that actually light you up) of what manhood is. You see more examples of what not to be. The essence of what I have seen is that men do not know how to be themselves. In the chaos and suffering of the world today, your softness and your power are essential pieces to the puzzle of living a soulful life while protecting what is truly vulnerable. You are needed now more than ever.

My 1-1 work carries two main pillars.

The psychological: attachment, development, somatics, relationships, all from an experiential lens, and more.

The soul: listening to and tracking the soul, ritual, community, cultivation of your gifts, depth, and more.

This work is not to meant to fix. Much of what we will do together is interrupt the patterns and behaviors that are not working in your life and use that opportunity to exercise what is authentic and real. While having trained in attachment and development, what I have come to learn is that men are not broken, rather men are born into a social system that does not support healthy attachment and development. We begin from the ground up using an experiential lens. My training with elder Duey Freeman and his models of attachment and development, have proven to be vastly effective with clients and in my own life. In essence, I am supporting you into developing and maturing into who you are so that your unique and natural aliveness can grow and fortify. I help you strengthen their capacity to come back from the past and future and be in your lived experience so you can see honestly and clearly. These processes will help you gain emotional intelligence and ripen you into your potential. When the mature adult emerges, you take your life by the reins, whereas the child/adolescent may attempt to take power over others. When you learn to separate from your pain, you will be granted the life you long for.

This is work of depth, soul work. This work will ask your to develop an ability to turn and face your own pain and the suffering in the world, and in that heartbreaking, allow a truth to emerge of how you want to live your life. Shadow work will be a part of this as the shadow is an unconscious side of our personality such as aspects of ourselves, past experiences, behaviors our self perception doesn’t agree with. At times you will be invited into ritual - which will support you into moving out of the known and the comfortable and into the holy ground of the present. Humans have been doing this for as longas we can recall. Facilitating ritual in my life and others has been one of the most profound markers of change. As told in the teachings of Francis Weller, soul is that which carries us through the darker moments of life like grief, shame, and despair. It is an ally that continues to call us home to beauty. The initiatory rite that transforms a boy into a man continues to be one of the most profound loses for our planet. It is essential that we as men develop an ability to carry our wounds and our power in a way that decreases the suffering of the world.

Fusing these two pillars under the influence of incredible elders and teachers have been some of the greatest gifts I’ve been given and it is a true honor to share them.

Send an email to connect@banks-anderson.com to set up a discovery call.